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Today is a strange day.

Postby Purps » Fri Aug 22, 2014 6:55 am

Today is the day I cremate my husband. Life is crazy sometimes..

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Postby northern_goddess » Fri Aug 22, 2014 6:57 am

Purps, my heart has been breaking for you.

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Postby rezuar » Fri Aug 22, 2014 6:58 am

Im so very sorry, Purps.
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Postby Potpie » Fri Aug 22, 2014 6:59 am

WHAT?

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Postby section8 » Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:00 am

Take it easy, purps.
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Postby (X) » Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:01 am

Desole pour ta perte; toutes mes pensees les plus tendres.
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Postby Purps » Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:03 am

I need to keep my shit together today. But it's so hard.

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Postby mad hatter » Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:07 am

You need to let other people deal with the details, you need to say goodbye. I hope you can make it a good goodbye.
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Re: Today is a strange day.

Postby Purps » Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:09 am

I've written him some fitting words, just need to have the strength to say it. I am so thankful we were back in Northern Ireland, with my family and friends around as this is too unbearable to deal with alone.

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Postby leela » Fri Aug 22, 2014 7:24 am

Purps, I am so sorry.

This was so terribly sudden and unexpected. I hope that being with your family and those who love you today helps to begin the road to recovery. Take care, and all the best with delivering those words.
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Postby lolasf » Fri Aug 22, 2014 8:07 am

So sorry, I had no idea and can't imagine what you're going through. Hugs. xxx
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Postby Paddox1 » Fri Aug 22, 2014 8:10 am

My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Postby erkat » Fri Aug 22, 2014 8:37 am

So sorry. Thinking of you and your family today.

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Postby wildflower » Fri Aug 22, 2014 8:46 am

I'm sorry. X
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Postby brodie_bruce » Fri Aug 22, 2014 10:47 am

Hope you get through the day ok.

It's been a bit of a tough one hasn't it?
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Postby Stephen_Dedalus » Fri Aug 22, 2014 10:49 am

Purps wrote:I've written him some fitting words, just need to have the strength to say it. I am so thankful we were back in Northern Ireland, with my family and friends around as this is too unbearable to deal with alone.


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Postby Lime_Pickle » Fri Aug 22, 2014 10:56 am

I'm so sorry Purps, I had no idea.
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Postby Chip_Oatley » Fri Aug 22, 2014 11:23 am

I'm shocked and saddened to hear this, purps.
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Re: Today is a strange day.

Postby simon_in_exile » Fri Aug 22, 2014 11:40 am

What?! Shit purps - don't know the story, but am thinking about you - you're one of life's good'uns. Stay strong, keep safe.
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Postby Collateral Knowledge » Fri Aug 22, 2014 11:51 am

I'm so sorry, Purple. Exactly what Simon said. X
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Postby Tomska » Fri Aug 22, 2014 11:56 am

Oh fuck. Purps I'm so sorry.

simon_in_exile wrote:What?! Shit purps - don't know the story, but am thinking about you - you're one of life's good'uns. Stay strong, keep safe.


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Re: Today is a strange day.

Postby Purps » Fri Aug 22, 2014 11:56 am

We had just started our round the world 4 week holiday, beginning in Beijing, then seeing family in England and Ireland, before heading to California, Tokyo and Malaysia. We'd only been in Derry one day when he had a major heart attack on Monday night. I was with him at the time and begged him to stay with me. From the sounds of it, he had no chance. He never had any symptoms so never had medical checks. Lesson learnt, is get regular tests done. Life is so fragile.

We were supposed to be seeing Pez next week. How surreal.

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Postby rezuar » Fri Aug 22, 2014 12:06 pm

Purps, sometimes even major health tests wont help. My FIL died of a major heart attack only four days after a general health check, EKG including. Life is very fragile and precarious indeed.
We should cherish it while we have it.
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Postby RandomThoughts » Fri Aug 22, 2014 12:36 pm

Oh crap. Purps I'm absolutely stunned to hear this. I'm so, so, sorry - there are tears in my eyes. Simply no words for this.
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Postby shunter » Fri Aug 22, 2014 12:50 pm

Thats very sad. My heart goes out to you.
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Postby cuchulainn » Fri Aug 22, 2014 1:10 pm

I'm very sorry.

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Postby Scrubb » Fri Aug 22, 2014 1:12 pm

I'm so very sorry to hear it, Purps.
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Postby Higgs Bossom » Fri Aug 22, 2014 1:33 pm

Wow, I'm terribly sorry. You have my condolences.

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Postby shilgia » Fri Aug 22, 2014 1:52 pm

I'm so sorry, Purps. Best of luck getting through this day. This is terrible.

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Re: Today is a strange day.

Postby pezworld » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:10 pm

You've been on my mind all week, of course - ehs too. And we were really looking forward to seeing you two again.

Some of you may recall their romance. Yes, they met online, and was first introduced to the Stew as "IT Guy." Not too long after they met ~ 5 years ago, he helped her move, and the ladies here decided he was a keeper. Nice guy. A few months later, I met my nice guy (ehs) online, and he helped me through all sorts of trauma before we settled in as a couple.

In the Fall of 2009, I told ehs that some random strangers off the internet were coming to LA, and I'd never met them, but I'd offered them my spare room to stay in for the weekend. He thought this was odd but said OK, he'd stay with me and we'd all go out and do stuff. ehs and Mr. Purps hit it off right away. J had sparkling blue eyes, was cheeky and funny and played a mean guitar. (J and ehs even looked a little alike.) We headed straight for Hollywood and some guitar stores, where J tested a bunch of them, then did touristy stuff and kicked around Venice Beach. It was a great weekend, and ehs was beginning to understand my internet friends thing.

Then we learned they were going to get married, so we figured why not? We'd never been to Ireland. We were just engaged ourselves and had a wonderful time at their wedding in a castle in Northern Ireland. Bride and groom were beautiful, and the festivities went on all day. They talked about coming to our wedding in California, but decided move to Australia the same month instead.

So our next trip to Australia, we managed to work in a visit to Adelaide. Two no-longer-random strangers off the Internet (+ ehs' cousin) lived there, so why not. We met again at their favorite wine bar on a stinking hot day and enjoyed a visit to their place.

Anyone who is friends with purps on FB knows what a rich life and love they had. They went from "should we bring French wines when we move to Adelaide?" to organizing bus trips to Mac Laren Vale and other wine regions with 18 of their closest friends. J was mad about purps, and she about him (obviously). I will miss seeing him every few years, and I'm so devastated for my friend purps.
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Postby leela » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:13 pm

That is a lovely post, Pez. And brings everything together for those of us who don't know the story.
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Postby polardude1 » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:18 pm

Purps, I am terribly sorry. My heart goes out to you in the deepest way. I know you must feel broken and lost now and wil for a while but allow your familly and friends to help you heal. Stay strong..please.
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Postby cowtown » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:23 pm

Awe geeze, so sorry, hang in there
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Postby Stan In Maryland » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:25 pm

Purps,

I am so sorry to hear this. I am glad though if he had to die he did so while traveling with you. After reading what Pez said I am sure he wouldn't have had it any other way.

I am also glad you are with family at this difficult time. May you find peace.
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Postby BeatRaven » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:43 pm

Strength.

You've had a big love. A lot of people never do.

It will stay with you always.

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Postby aero » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:45 pm

I am so very sorry, purps.

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Postby incognita » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:47 pm

Oh Purps, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Big, big hugs.

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Postby bundes » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:49 pm

I'm so sorry Purps, my deepest condolences.

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Postby Stephen_Dedalus » Fri Aug 22, 2014 2:51 pm

Heart warming post Pez

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Postby Chi_Rup » Fri Aug 22, 2014 3:02 pm

So sorry to hear this, Purps. You're with good people though, judging by pez's lovely words.

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Postby Ryan » Fri Aug 22, 2014 3:10 pm

I'm so sorry.

I remember a colleague at work who lost his wife saying, a few years down the line, that it never got better, but it got easier.
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Postby Homerj » Fri Aug 22, 2014 3:18 pm

So sorry.
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Postby sodelicious » Fri Aug 22, 2014 3:39 pm

So sorry to hear this Purps.
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Postby tortuga » Fri Aug 22, 2014 3:57 pm

What they all said...I don't "know" you other than from Pez's post above, but I'm wishing you the best, too.

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Postby judik » Fri Aug 22, 2014 4:28 pm

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Postby NorthAmerican » Fri Aug 22, 2014 5:01 pm

My condolences, and a suggestion that I hope won't be too late: If it will be unbearable for you to speak the words you wrote, ask someone else to read them, acknowledging you as their author. My youngest brother was killed while in the army, and I was asked by the priest who was to conduct the funeral if I would speak. I told him that I absolutely could not. Another brother spoke in my place.

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Postby Bill Barilko » Fri Aug 22, 2014 5:07 pm

How very sad-my most heartfelt condolences.
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Postby Geece » Fri Aug 22, 2014 5:39 pm

Wow, so sorry.

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Postby eric84 » Fri Aug 22, 2014 5:59 pm

So terrible. Condolences.
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Postby Troll_Handle » Fri Aug 22, 2014 6:01 pm

That's awful purps, I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

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